One   By the time I returned to New York in 2013 I had been living in Oxford for more than a decade, though I had moved there in the first place imagining I might stay for a few years at most. Having failed to get tenure at Columbia I believed Britain might offer some kind of new beginning, a way perhaps to restart my career, but I always planned to move back to America. In the end it took twice or three times as long to get home as I expected it might, and in the interim America had changed so radically--by coincidence I left just after the 9/11 attacks--that I felt no less alienated on my return than I had during those long years in Britain. Although I had acquired British citizenship and owned a house in East Oxford, on the rather optimistically named Divinity Road, which becomes gradually more affluent as it rises to the crest of a hill, Britain has no narrative of immigrant assimilation, so for my colleagues and friends and students and strangers, it mattered little that I was legally one of them. First and last, I was and would always be an American. Perhaps if one comes at a younger age total acculturation is possible, but as a man in his forties my habits were too firmly in place to undergo whatever changes might have allowed me to become British in anything other than law. When I was fresh out of graduate school, New York University was not one of the places I would have chosen to work, but I was thrilled when they approached me to apply for a professorship and even happier when I was offered the position and knew at last that my years away from home were at an end. It is surprising how much displacement can alter the mind, and while I went to Britain entirely of my own accord, I became restive after the first few years and increasingly resentful that I was being denied--it seemed to me then--access to a fully American life. I blamed my former colleagues at Columbia and whatever machinations had led to my not being awarded tenure and having thus to begin afresh, as it were, as a rather lowly-sounding Fellow and University Lecturer at one of Oxford's older Colleges, founded in the fifteenth century, though not one that attracted the brightest students or had the largest endowment. It was, I came to see, a comfortable place to be, despite the workload being substantially greater than at a comparable American institution since Oxford has continued to teach students individually or in small groups, and there is an ever-expandable duty of pastoral care unlike anything in the American academy. I became accustomed to the College chef sending me lunch in my rooms if he was not too busy, often including some tidbit (or as the British say, titbit ), from the previous night's High Table dinner. There were excellent wines in the College cellars and life ticked on as it had for centuries there, with few changes other than the admission of women, and for a few dons still circulating in my time that was regarded as an ill-thought-out modernization that had, they insisted, changed the face of Oxford irremediably. I was lucky with the property market and in the spring of 2013 sold the house on Divinity Road for a staggering million dollars' profit, which I invested in a house and some land overlooking the Hudson River a couple hours north of the city, while taking up NYU's generously subsidized housing in the Silver Towers on Houston Street. Beautiful the apartment was not, but it was a five-minute walk to work and Bobst Library and I relished being back in a city that felt global in a way Oxford certainly had not despite the great number of international students and scholars hustling around its quadrangles and vomiting in its alleys. Coming home, of course, meant knowing that I would see Meredith more than once or twice a year, as had been our custom since my move to Britain. Her mother had continued to provide her a home in the early years, and in fact the breakdown of my marriage to Susan had coincided with my loss of tenure, though the two were unrelated and no one, it seemed to us both, was really at fault. Nonetheless, it had felt at the time as if there were doubly good reason to seek new opportunities, not only because my career in American academia was finished so far as I could tell, but because my marriage was over as well. It was last year, only a few months into my first semester back in New York, when I had a meeting scheduled with a doctoral student to whose committee I had been assigned. Life in Oxford had produced a kind of informality in my relations with students, graduate students in particular, and so I had proposed meeting Rachel at a café one Saturday afternoon, the Saturday before Thanksgiving 2013. It was one of a series of Italian-themed places on MacDougal Street that claimed a lineage longer than seemed likely, but I enjoyed its cheap coffees and the variety of authentic pastries they had for sale in their glass display case. If I'm completely honest, it helped soften some of the culture shock I was feeling on my return to America, allowing me to believe for a moment that those markers of European life of which I had grown fond over the years remained accessible to me even on this side of the Atlantic. Accordingly I made Café Paradiso a regular stop in my weekly life, as it provided the kind of quiet and spacious venue where friends and students could be met and conversation lingered over without the sense that a waiter or waitress was going to rush us out the door. It had more atmosphere and élan than one of the chain coffee shops and less hectic bustle than the faux-artisanal places so packed that one has to compete for a table and then feels the pressure of other guests helicoptering with eyes peeled for the first movements building to a departure. Café Paradiso was not chic or hip or hot but it had understated style and that, no doubt, is what has kept it in business for so many years--either that or it's a front for money laundering, which is always a possibility in this town. Rachel had been prompt in all our communications and we had met once before, in September, for what in Oxford I would have called a supervision but which now was perhaps better called just a meeting or, if that felt too businesslike, then, simply, coffee . In the intervening two months I had heard little from Rachel until she sent me a completed draft of a chapter I had promised to read. This work, on the organizational history of the Ministry for State Security in the German Democratic Republic, was very assured. I had only a few suggestions for how she might tweak her methodological framework and told her I thought it would be productive to meet again in person before the Thanksgiving weekend. I had brought a book with me since I am always early wherever I go, this is one of the great irritations I have with my own character since it produces so much wasted time, but I did not expect Rachel to keep me waiting since she had given the impression in our first meeting two months earlier and in all our subsequent communications of being a young woman of exceptional precision and punctuality, even punctiliousness, for in the day leading up to our last meeting she had written to confirm the time and place before I had done so and when I arrived for that appointment, in the coffee shop near the southeast corner of Washington Square, she was waiting for me. In any case, on this second meeting, the Saturday before the week of Thanksgiving, I sat down at a table in the Italian café on MacDougal, ordered an Americano, and opened my book. I cannot now remember what the book was, it might have been Anthony Beevor's history of 1945, or something of that sort, and I soon found that I had read ten pages. When I looked at my watch it was nearly a quarter past four, fifteen minutes after the appointed time of the meeting. I took out my phone, an antiquated black plastic wedge, unable to send or receive emails, but at least, I thought, I could send Rachel a text message, as I sometimes did to Meredith if I was arranging to meet her and got stuck in traffic, but when I scrolled through my list of contacts I was surprised to discover that Rachel's name was not among them, although I would have sworn that I had entered her details when we met in September. I huffed, returned to the book, and another ten minutes passed. I took out my phone, checked again to be sure her I had not overlooked her number, perhaps it was filed under last name instead of first, but there was nothing. It was possible that at some point I had accidentally deleted the entry, my fingers are already not as dexterous as they once were and the tiny keys on my circa-2007 phone are difficult for me to punch accurately, or maybe, I reasoned, that memory of putting Rachel's name and number into the list of contacts was nothing more than willful invention or a false memory of an intention left unfulfilled. I had been nursing the coffee and now decided there was no point in waiting longer so I raised the cup to my mouth and in so doing caught the gaze of a young man, perhaps in his late twenties or early thirties, sitting at a table across from me. I don't know how long he had been sitting there, whether he had already been in the café when I walked in or if he had arrived after me, but he nodded or perhaps did not nod but effected some kind of look of acknowledgement or greeting and then began speaking in a way so casually familiar that I was taken off guard. This is not something that tends to happen in Britain, where suspicion of strangers is so deeply ingrained in the psyche, perhaps from the years of the IRA threat, or even more distantly, from the suspicion of German spies during the Second World War, that strangers often do not even make eye contact let alone speak with one another, unless they are from elsewhere, and then, by happy chance, it becomes possible to bond with a stranger in a public place, both shaking your heads over the confounding maze of London's transportation network or the cost of living or the difficulty of simply walking down the street because whatever laws of left-side walking that might once have been in force have been hopelessly confused by London's transformation into an international microstate, and though distant enough from the capital, Oxford is a satellite of this phenomenon, its Englishness gradually giving way to a cosmopolitanism that moves with brutal transformative force, so perhaps the day will soon come when strangers in Britain talk to each other in ways that will feel normal rather than extraordinary. But here, in New York, on a cold day in November, there was a stranger engaging me in conversation, and because of my habituation to an English attitude of reticence and privacy it seemed so astonishing that at first I could not believe he could possibly be speaking to me. 'Stood up?' I did a double take, looking round the room. 'You talking to me?' ' You talking to me? That's funny,' he laughed, 'like DeNiro, right? Taxi Driver . You talkin' to me? ' 'Yeah, I suppose so.' 'So? Stood up?' 'No. It's not like that. I was waiting for a student.' 'Male or female?' Again I looked around the room. The café was not very full and there was something sufficiently strange in the young man's tone that I was unsure whether it was safe to continue the conversation, in fact I thought of ending it right there and excusing myself. If I had any common sense remaining that is precisely what I should have done, but clearly, in retrospect, I had taken leave of my senses, or perhaps, I think now, taken leave of my British senses and allowed the American ones to seize control. 'Female.' 'Pretty?' Once more I looked around, this time to be sure there was no one I knew within earshot. 'No, to be honest, not really.' 'You sound British.' 'I lived there for more than a decade. To the British I always sounded American.' 'Well, you sound British to me. Anyone else tell you that?' 'A number of people. Americans tend not to have a good ear. They think that British actor, what's his name, who's on TV, they think he does a faultless American accent. He doesn't. It's totally unconvincing. It sounds like an accent that was cooked up in a laboratory rather than grown from seed, as it were.' 'See, that's what I mean. Americans would never say as it were . You totally sound British. That's awesome.' 'Thank you, I guess.' 'So she's not pretty, the student who stood you up?' 'She's attractive enough, but that's not the point. She's an excellent student.' 'But a flake.' 'No, not a flake. It's just not like her.' 'Call her.' 'I don't have her number. Thought I did...' 'Senior moment?' 'Listen, kiddo, I'm not that old.' 'You could be my granddad.' 'The hell I could. I'm only fifty-two.' 'Okay, okay, I'm just messing with you. What do you teach?' 'Modern history and politics, and film, a senior seminar on film.' 'Cool, man.' 'Are you a student?' 'Nope. Not any more.' 'You know what I do. You don't want to tell me what you do?' 'Just another corporate shill.' And that was the end of the conversation as far as I remember it. He struck me as not much younger or older than Meredith, with sandy hair and a pale complexion that made him look like a corn-fed Midwesterner, the kind of face that still hosts the slightly haunted looking eyes of poverty from a few generations back--not his parents or grand-parents necessarily, but one or more of the great-grandparents, I suspected, had not eaten well for much of his or her life and somehow that hunger had taken hold of their genes and been passed down to the kid who struck up a conversation with me in an Italian café in Greenwich Village in November of 2013. It was the kind of face that reminded me of the portraits of Mike Disfarmer, those sepia photographs of ordinary Arkansas folk, too tanned, most of them lean and a little hungry or hunted looking, as though in hunting to put meat on the table they had at some moment in the chase realized they were themselves being tracked by unseen predators. The meeting was not in itself unsettling, although he was the kind of person, or behaved like the kind of person, who left me glancing over my shoulder as I walked back to my building in the afternoon dark, and then as I stood in the lighted window overlooking Houston Street--or, rather, staring at my own reflection as I was thinking about the passing traffic outside--it occurred to me just how visible I was, only a few floors up from street level, the slatted blinds open and me standing there, listening to Miles Davis and drinking a glass of scotch because it was, after all, already half past five in the afternoon and it was November and dark and I felt alone, in fact quite lonely, and realizing that the reason I had not ended the conversation immediately, even when it took its stranger turns, was because I had not yet managed to reconnect with many of my old friends in the city, and had in fact let those friendships slide during my years in Oxford, so that I no longer felt able to phone up the people who had once been my intimates and ask them if we could meet for a coffee as easily as I proposed such meetings with my students, female or not, pretty or otherwise, whether my supervision of this student or that student's progress demanded such social intercourse. I decided that I should invite some colleagues for dinner, and then remembered the reason why I was feeling unsettled in the first place, and the fact that I had briefly forgotten why I was unsettled compounded my sense of unease. I opened my laptop and checked my email account and there, right at the top of the sent messages, was an email to Rachel that I had apparently sent that afternoon, at just past 2pm, so only a few hours earlier, in which I asked her if we might reschedule our meeting until Monday at 4pm in my office because another commitment had unexpectedly arisen and I could not, I was terribly sorry, find a way to get out of it, and would she please forgive me. And there was her reply, which I had apparently read, assuring me it was no problem whatsoever and Monday at 4pm in my office suited her perfectly. Now, I had no memory of writing the message I had apparently sent, or of having read her message, and while it's true that I was having my first drink before 6pm, it was definitely my first drink of the day, and, moreover, I had not had a drink all week, though one might think that because I have to mention such a thing perhaps I have had a problem in the past, which is not the case either, unlike a great many of my former colleagues at Oxford, a majority of whom I would guess were functional--and some not remotely functional--alcoholics of the kind that are not readily tolerated in American academe. The point being: I had not blacked out, had not forgotten this exchange with Rachel because of alcoholism, although in fact it would have been reassuring to think I had completely forgotten the episode because of something external to my own mind and not because of a black hole in my memory. It may be a point of regret but in those moments in my newly re-Americanized life, when I feel suddenly ill at ease or simply lonelier than any contact with students and colleagues can remedy, I phone my daughter, and this is what I did on that Saturday in late November, I picked up the phone and turned down Miles Davis and asked Meredith how she and Peter were doing. 'Fine, Dad, a little crazed, to be honest. We have a dinner tonight.' 'Anyone important?' 'Yes, but I can't--I mean, I shouldn't really say.' 'Am I untrustworthy?' 'No, of course not, it's just, phone lines these days, you never know. Maybe I'm being paranoid. But how are you?' 'Okay. Something--it's...nothing really. I just wanted to hear your voice.' 'Come tonight if you like. I could use another person. And it would be good to see you.' I could not tell whether it was a genuine invitation or if my daughter was simply throwing pity on me, but I made a brief show of protest before accepting because frankly I could not bear the thought of spending the night alone in that vast apartment in the Village, or even taking myself out to eat and then going off to see some deeply earnest Iranian or Turkish or even French film at the Angelika or walking an hour up to Central Park just to feel the sensation of moving among other people, to imagine I was not alone in the world, failed and a failure because I had to throw myself into the company of strangers to create the illusion of connection. Such perambulations, I had discovered, made the sensation of loneliness even worse. When I accepted the job at NYU I did not give much thought to how this change, the return to a city I still thought of as home despite a decade's absence, would affect my social life, which in Oxford was stuffed with colleagues. Many of them, it has to be said, were foreigners like me, banding together in our shared sense of alienation from the English, or from Englishness, which I gradually came to understand was distinct from Scottishness or Welshness (though this is a word one does not often hear) and was often conflated in the minds of the English with Britishness, particularly under the coalition government of David Cameron, which sought in various insidious ways to turn back the clock on Tony Blair's cool multicultural Britain and revive a crypto-nationalist (some might even say crypto-fascist) version of 'Britishness' so essentially English that the Scots had little choice but to try to demand their independence. I once heard an anchor on Sky News describe the tennis player Andy Murray as 'England's great hope, and he's a Scot,' as if the whole country were truly England, only one part of a federal country, and not Great Britain. Despite the alienations of Englishness, which is really about the exclusionary quality of Englishness, its unwillingness to assimilate its immigrants, I was not, not ever, not even in the first months of life in Oxford in 2001, ever truly lonely. There were endless social events, garden parties and high table dinners and gaudies and drinks receptions. It's a small enough place that the like-minded seem instinctively to seek each other out, making time despite the onerous workload to have lunches and dinners and coffees and drinks, keeping conviviality at the heart of their experience of that ancient city. The socializing, I came to understand, was as much a part of the educational and intellectual atmosphere as the libraries and lecture theaters. So, in feeling this sudden void of loneliness in New York--the city I love, a love for which sustained me when I was in Oxford, a city I also came to love for its own particular charms--I was too often in the habit of phoning my daughter in the late afternoons or evenings, especially on weekends, and perhaps too suggestively asking if she and Peter had any plans, or, more subtly, if I was feeling robust in my self, simply how they were doing. Three out of five times Meredith would invite me to their apartment for dinner or to meet at a restaurant, or I would discover that she had an event in the Village or Meatpacking District--a gallery opening or party--and she would swing by to see me before heading home. I learned that my daughter, who I still thought of as a child even though she was married and by all measures successful in her own right, with a gallery bearing her name and a rising reputation, had, like her father, a taste for single malts, and especially for those earthy and almost medicinal-tasting peaty ones from Islay. Together we would sit in my living room with Miles Davis on the record player, because I had taken to buying beautifully ink-black vinyl LPs, in what my daughter called, a little contemptuously, 'a hipster affectation.' All we were missing was a Cuban cigar between us, though that perhaps sounds unduly Freudian now that I think about it, or might suggest that what I really wanted was a son. Meredith is the greatest joy of my life, and will always be, I remain certain, no matter what else may happen or whoever else may yet arrive. On that Saturday in November when my meeting with my student Rachel did not materialize, I took the subway up to Columbus Circle and stopped in a grocery store in the basement of the building that wasn't there when I last lived in the city; in fact Columbus Circle had changed so radically that it was barely recognizable to me every time I returned. If I emerged from the subway without thinking where I was, the disorientation was sometimes so acute I had to look at a map or ask directions just to find my way onto Central Park South.             Perhaps it's related to the divorce, or to the fact that I packed up and moved away when my daughter was only thirteen, leaving her totally in the care of her mother, but I cannot now arrive empty-handed at her door. That night I brought a simple bottle of Laphroig, because I know she likes it, and an autumnal looking bouquet from that overpriced basement grocery store. Meredith answered the door and the effect, well, for a father it was nothing short of breathtaking to see her like that, in a perfect black dress, a string of pearls, her dark hair swept behind her shoulders, her whole presence perfectly composed in every imaginable way except in the eyes, and there, in her gaze, I could recognize total panic, and knew that she had invited me not to do me a favor, thankfully, but because she needed me to help her get through that extraordinary dinner party. Why she had not invited me in the first place I can only guess, perhaps she thought I would find it boring, or maybe even Peter vetoed it, or perhaps, after my long absence from their lives, it had simply not occurred to them, although we had seen each other quite frequently over the previous few months, which suggested that a conscious decision had been made at some point--or at some level, I thought, because it has always been clear that Peter thinks of himself as the 'decider' in the relationship with my daughter--that on this occasion I should not be present.             I handed Meredith the flowers and scotch but before I could get any further two security men in suits appeared from the foyer. 'Sorry, Dad, you understand, no one gets inside tonight without being given the onceover. You know how it goes.' 'No need to explain, sweetheart. This is just part of life these days.' She smiled in a way that almost broke my heart because it looked so pitying as the men passed a metal detecting wand around me and patted me down and once I had been given the all-clear, assured that I was unarmed and therefore supposedly not a risk to whoever was in the next room, or might yet arrive, I followed my daughter into the kitchen, which was thronged with cater waiters and a chef. It looked like a professional kitchen, and I realized then that since my return to New York, and in fact since Meredith had married Peter two years previously, in a large but understated ceremony at his family's house in East Hampton, I had never seen my daughter so much as boil water for tea. Usually the housekeeper did the cooking, but clearly for an event like that night's dinner they needed a much larger staff and it was only later, of course, that I understood how important the evening was, and what a risk, in a sense, Meredith had taken by inviting me at the last minute (I later discovered that in fact there had been a late cancellation, one of Peter's colleagues whose child fell seriously ill with food poisoning, and I presented myself, as if by fate, to make up the numbers). I don't know in retrospect whether there was an element of calculation on Meredith's part but I like to think there was not, that there was and is enough affection between us that she was moved as much by her own need of my support as by a desire to support me, to lift me out of my all too obvious loneliness. 'I'm so grateful you could come, Dad. I really need you tonight.' 'Don't be silly, it's my very great pleasure.' 'You've become so British,' she smiled, straightening my tie. 'Would you like a glass of something? There's champagne.' 'That would be lovely.' 'God, so British.' 'How is that British, sweetheart?' 'Americans just don't say lovely in the same way.' 'Is it wrong? Should I try to change?' 'No! Of course not.' She handed me a glass of champagne that had been handed to her by a waiter with whom she had communicated by a slight tilt of the head in my direction. It was excellent bubbly, or fizz as some British people would say, though both, fizz in particular, seemed often to be demotic expressions and the truly posh would only ever call it champagne , or if they were putting on a certain pretentiously casual affect, Hooray Henrys on the lash as some others would once have said, then it was champers , drunken to such excess that they fell down in the ancient alleyways running between New College and All Souls and would have to be dragged to the emergency room for stitches in their gashed open chins. 'So who's here tonight? Can you tell me now?' 'Sorry for the subterfuge, it's a working dinner for Peter. Albert Fogel and his wife and Fogel's mother. The rest are all Peter's colleagues,' and here she dropped her voice, 'most of whom I can't stand, but you know, they were all at college together or went to the same boarding schools, and they're all dot.com millionaires, like many times over. These are the people who are really running the country, in a totally ad hoc way of course, and most of the time they have no idea how pervasive the effects of their power are, but there you go, this is the world we live in.' It broke my heart a little to hear my twenty-five-year-old daughter sound so jaded at such a young age. I wondered if marrying into money was responsible for that, not that her mother and I were poor, her mother especially, and one has to acknowledge that Meredith went to one of those colleges and it was because of that educational access, not to mention her distinctive, slightly old-fashioned beauty, the face of a Vermeer, the creamy pale skin of a Manet, the height and poise and athleticism of a classical statue, all those random genetic inheritances, in combination with her extremely fine mind and exceptional taste, that made her so attractive to a certain population of young wealthy men who had an eye for beauty but also for intelligence, who could see that my daughter, not spoiled from birth but well-looked after, nurtured and kept level-headed, would be a stable partner for at least the first decade of their professional lives, and in these days, a colleague at Oxford quipped on hearing of Meredith's engagement a few years ago, one can but hope to see one's children reach their tenth wedding anniversary: to hope for any more would be foolish, even hubristic. The age of constancy has passed.   Excerpted from I Am No One by Patrick Flanery All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.